Bondage play is as easy or complex while you like. You don’t want to use any gear in the event that you don’t wish. Bondage may be 100% psychological. As an example: inform your spouse “hold the headboard, and don’t allow go”. Presuming she plays along, she actually is efficiently “tied” to your headboard, however it provides her a whole lot of control, and she does not have to move an excessive amount of into uncharted territory. This is good first rung on the ladder (though admittedly, one we’ve never used).
We used were old ties when we started out, the first thing. People we didn’t like and didn’t care when they go wrecked/ripped/creased/stained. Ties are excellent, since they are versatile and everyone comes with a tie that is old or two, lying around. Plus, they have a tendency become soft. We utilized them to bind hands (like cuffs), foot, legs to arms, utilize them as a blindfold, etc.. The biggest disadvantage: knots can be difficult to get free from them, and additionally they aren’t very long, to ensure that limits some of the choices.